While traversing the rocky roads of adult life one thing I've noticed increase is my lack of appreciation for small pleasures. It seems like lately my every day has been filled with small worries instead; figuring out my career path, maintaining relationships while trying not to spend too much money, dealing with annoying customers at work. There is also the occasional body-image melt down with a mixture of indifference sprinkled on top, but that's a post for another day.
Today I wanted to discuss the dwindling acknowledgement of the little things in life that make us smile or feel cozy in otherwise uncomfortable environments. Without these things we would be shells of ourselves, dealing with life one miserable experience after another, and yet the bad things always seem to outweigh the ever present good despite how big or small.
I've made the decision to take a bit more time out of my day to appreciate all these little things that make me that much happier. Those can include anything from a good hair day to a hot cup of coffee before I head out for work. I find that it's easy to forget about these things and carry on harbouring negativity, so a bit of a reminder is always a good place to start when trying to lighten up.
STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES
There's no denying that we in the west live in a fast-paced society, but that doesn't mean we have to let it absorb us. It's easy to get caught up in a busy lifestyle - some people even enjoy being busy more than having time to rest - but it's important to stop every once in a while and appreciate our surroundings. That can be nature in general or the city you live in. Acknowledgement is key in experiencing any sort of enjoyment or happiness. Take the time to step away from your schedule and just look around at where you are, what you're doing and recognize that there can be beauty in anything.
Thanking people might seem like a very common gesture in daily life, but it doesn't always involve genuine interaction. It's easy to vomit that word out anytime anything happens, but to truly feel thankful and express it to the person making you happy will make the experience that much more special. Not only have you made someone else feel appreciated, but you've also been able to interact with someone worth the thanks.
DO MORE OF WHAT YOU LOVE
Now that I've started working again I've realized that the fire of my writing has started to dwindle. I've been so caught up in my work schedule that I haven't had the opportunity to sit and just think about ideas I want to express. We all need to make money, that's understandable, but making sure you are also doing what brings you joy on the side is just as vital. Something as small as writing a paragraph gives me enough energy and momentum to potentially finish a novel.
SOMETIMES IT'S OKAY TO NOT CARE
We've been taught from a very young age that certain things are important, such as school, money, and your reputation. I'm here to say that those things don't always matter and it will do you some good to let them go when the stress is too much to handle. Obligations are important, but putting your health or your quality of life in jeopardy for all of them is not. It's okay to let some things slip while trying to maintain others. We are not superhuman, we need time to rest and recover, and that's nothing to be ashamed of. The moment I realized that I didn't care what other's thought about what I cared about a weight was lifted off my shoulders and I hope to never deal with that anxiety again.
How do you appreciate the small things in life?