I’m going to make a blatant confession; I stress a lot. It could have been from the years of school all the way into university that have made me edgy and anxious about certain things, but it seems increasingly difficult to just relax and take things as they come. It has gotten a little bit better the more accustomed I’ve become to being an “adult”, but there is still a nagging voice in the back of my head from time to time that that has me worrying about things that aren’t dire.
Alongside Netflix, beauty products, and style I enjoy documenting new lifestyle ideas that I’ve either found to work and want to share with others or am looking forward to trying myself. When it comes to any sort of self-management, it’s all pretty much trial and error—like a skin care routine that you just can’t get quite right. In this post I thought it would be helpful for both myself and anyone else suffering from the same overbearing person in their heads to outline a few things that help me de-stress.
This one is obvious. Any site you look up about stress will always suggest exercise as a very effective way to manage it and I’ve found that to be the case. Unfortunately, having worked two jobs (up until now) and taking time out of my schedule to visit the boyfriend and maintain my few but important friendships, it has become increasingly difficult to find time for working out. If I had one resolution for the new year it would be to push myself to exercise more even when I’m not feeling up to it.
TAKING YOUR TIME
One of my favourite things about the mornings (other than sleeping in) is getting ready for the day ahead. as explained in my last post, I’ve never been one of this people that can just roll out of bed and head out the door, but rather enjoy taking my time to watch a few YouTube videos as I get ready. I feel like it curbs the rush of adrenaline I get from that morning alarm and gives me the chance to pamper myself after only a few hours of sleep the night before.
This is something else I haven’t had much time to do lately. I seem to fall into waves of reading and catching up on television series. At the moment, I have been glued to Netflix when I have some free time and that doesn’t really give me the chance to flow through a book without long pauses in between. I have found that a bit of reading before bed, even if just a page or two, completely relaxes me and even tires out my eyes a bit more than they would be if I was scrolling through my Instagram or Twitter feed. It also doesn’t help that I keep collecting books to read, but never actually get to them.
One major thing lacking in my home and work life is complete and utter quiet. I can’t remember the last time I took a few minutes to just sit in silence without a TV show or a podcast in the background and solely focus on my breathing or the present moment. Working in the downtown core of Toronto I don’t get much space between myself and other human contact and I’ve found that popping over to my boyfriend’s place for a few hours when he’s still at work gives me the chance to unwind without anyone else around. In the future I will be trying to take a few minutes out of the day to forget about everything troubling me or any errands that need to be run and just sit in silence, thinking about absolutely nothing.
WRITING IT DOWN
Something I’ve just started and am really excited about continuing is a stress journal. Sometimes I find myself not really knowing why I feel stressed or anxious and so keeping track of those feelings and connecting them to a substantial reason might help in coming to some sort of conclusion, or even a bit more acceptance of the fact that I cannot control everything happening around me. Deciding what nail polish colour to wear every week; that can be controlled. Life? Not so much. Because I already have a love of writing, what better way to execute it than with a bit of self-awareness and improvement?
Any stress management tips that work for you?